STOP TANTRUMS NOW!!!
Do ONE THING differently.
Learn the secret to STOPPING tantrums without punishment
OR putting up with
unwanted behavior.
Learn the secret to STOPPING tantrums
without punishment OR putting up with
unwanted behavior.
“I thought tantrums were just this thing that kids do. You just helped me realize my child is reacting to me! That means I have the power to stop them, and now I know what to do!”
— Mena, father, ABA Specialist, Los Angeles
“Easy to immediately implement.”
— Lee (5 yo)
“It has allowed us to assist our anxious daughter with her swings through big emotions resulting from my son's unstable health.”
– Joelle (3 & 5yo)
Finally, a simple approach
that actually works...
Just do ONE THING differently!
Developmental Science simplified for busy parents
At How Kids Work™, with 50+ years of combined experience and
a PhD in Child Development, we know that tantrums ARE NOT inevitable.
Learn how to STOP tantrums before they hit the peak...
Understand WHY tantrums escalate
Know how to actually help your child calm down
Take the embarrassment and weight of tantrums off your shoulders
Stop living in fear of the next tantrum!
In this 20-min class, you will learn the ONE THING that turns tantrums around INSTANTLY, and then keeps working!
It actually BUILDS a strong relationship as soon as you start, and keeps building as long as you use it 💕
Tantrums should not be happening…ever
Tantrums are a reaction to something you aren’t doing, which means YOU have the POWER to stop them.
Does your child have a tantrum every week? Or even every DAY?
They might seem like just part of life, requiring you to go to great lengths not to set them off. But honestly, you hate walking on eggshells around your own child!
You also hate it when your child feels upset. You want to handle it with confidence and grace. You want to support their emotion regulation. But, most of all, you just want it to STOP!
Good news! When you know this ONE THING, you can drop all the "tricks" and "hacks." And build your relationship while helping your child calm down.
Rescue yourself, and your child, from tantrums now!
Tantrums should not be happening…ever!
Tantrums are a reaction to something you aren’t doing, which means YOU have the POWER to end them.
Does your child have a tantrum every week? Or even every DAY?
They might seem like just part of life, requiring you to go to great lengths not to set them off. But honestly, you hate walking on eggshells around your own child!
You also hate it when your child feels upset. You want to handle it with confidence and grace. You want to support their emotion regulation. But, most of all, you just want it to STOP!
Good news! When you know this ONE THING, you can drop all the "tricks" and "hacks." And your kids will NEVER, EVER have to have tantrums, because...they won't need to.
Rescue yourself, and your child, from tantrums forever.
What is a tantrum?
Of course, there’s the obvious. Screaming, crying, throwing things, the little scrunched face…
But there’s something important going on under the hood.
Most people think tantrums happen because kids have poor emotion regulation skills, or because kids’ brains switch off when they’re mad…NOT TRUE!
Tantrums actually happen when kids are trying to tell you how important something is, and you don't seem to "get it." Frustrated, they will dig their heels in and escalate until you CAN’T ignore them.
In other words, a tantrum is an act of desperation!
If you don’t "get it" this time, don’t worry, it will come back up again...over and over, until they feel like you do.
So, how do you “get it” AND let THEM know that you “got it”?
How do you melt tantrums in seconds?
We do it all the time. We can’t wait to show you!
Learn the ONE THING that
turns tantrums around, instantly!
No more...
Punishing
Ignoring it
Distracting
Tricks or hacks
Trying to be gentle and kind while they're screaming in your face
Just ONE THING to do that can change everything!
We're in this together.
I'm Dr. Betsy Blackard, Founder of HKW and daughter of Sandy Blackard, the creator of our approach. No matter where you are on your parenting journey, we've got your back.
My mom started this journey in 1992 with two little ones 18mo apart. One was highly anxious and the other extremely defiant (🙋 hi, that's me!). Unwilling to use punishment and unable to make 'gentle' parenting work, she created a simple, award-winning approach that gives parents a break and helps kids succeed.
And as a kid, I loved it! My mom was someone I could trust, who always helped me see the best in myself. She also became the mom other kids would come to when they couldn't talk to their own parents. She helped us all feel seen and heard while creating structure that helped us succeed no matter where we were.
She was ALWAYS in my corner.
Driven to understand the science behind her revolutionary approach, I earned my Ph.D. in child development. And you know what? Not only does it work, it's backed by science. In other words, my mom was right.
Now you can be right, too!
Join us and learn about the ONE THING that will create radical success for you and your child.
Since 1992, thousands of parents, teachers, and child experts have used our simple and practical approach to build their confidence as parents, help their children through tough emotions, and transform their families.
“I could tell you so many stories about how it's helped me guide my very spirited 4-year-old through the rough waters of adjusting to a new sibling, and it's even helped me with my marriage!”
— Pilar, Teacher
“I was impressed by the insights obtained by using these simple tools…I can’t say enough about how valuable this has been for us as a family.” — Fiona, Mom
“This elegantly simple and wonderfully effective approach to parenting is THE essential tool for anyone desiring to help children grow to their highest potential!" — Merrily, Therapist
Since 1992, thousands of parents, teachers, and child experts have used our simple and practical approaches to build their confidence as parents, help their children through tough emotions, and transform their families.
“I could tell you so many stories about how it's helped me guide my very spirited 4-year-old through the rough waters of adjusting to a new sibling, and it's even helped me with my marriage!”
— Pilar, Teacher
“I was impressed by the insights obtained by using these simple tools…I can’t say enough about how valuable this has been for us as a family.” — Fiona, Mom
“This elegantly simple and wonderfully effective approach to parenting is THE essential tool for anyone desiring to help children grow to their highest potential!" — Merrily, Therapist
TANTRUMS ARE NO JOKE.
BUT YOU CAN DO THIS.
AND WE'RE HERE FOR YOU.
TANTRUMS ARE NO JOKE.
BUT YOU CAN DO THIS.
AND WE'RE HERE FOR YOU.
You're here because something has to CHANGE!
You’re going to lose it if these tantrums keep happening. (Or you already have!)
You’re sick of holding your breath, waiting for the next tantrum to kick off.
Your love for your children is greater than anything you’ve ever felt & you want tools that match that love.
You want a connection with your child that isn't strained by past or future tantrums.
You want them to learn healthy emotion regulation.
AND, let’s be real, you just want the tantrums to STOP!
You have QUESTIONS
We have ANSWERS
How do I know this class is right for me and my child?
If nothing you've tried works, (or it kinda did, but didn't feel good...) this class is for you!
We can help you stop tantrums in a way both you and your child will like.
Your child doesn't like tantrums any more than you do. They throw tantrums out of desperation! You can see it on their little face.
In this mini class, Dr. Betsy gives you the ONE THING that makes tantrums unnecessary.
What makes your approach so special?
In a nutshell? Our approach gives parents a break and helps kids succeed.
It's based on how kids really work. Once you understand that, how to work WITH them becomes obvious!
But don’t take our word for it. Hear it from the experts:
“An easy parenting strategy that really works.”
— Dr. Laura Markham, AhaParenting.com
“Your techniques have made it easy on tired days and when we are presented with new things we don't know how to approach. It truly has made such a huge difference in my toddler's life.”
— Megan (children 7 mo., 2, 3), Family Practice Physician, Minnesota
“Nothing else makes this kind of difference with the children.”
— Phyllis, Day Care Owner & Mother, Texas
“Your approach has been without a doubt THE MOST POWERFUL approach to working with children that I have ever encountered in my 9 years as a Montessori guide (and now 4 years as a parent)."
— Pilar B., Montessori Guide (children 6 mo., 4)
What if I’ve tried everything?
If you’ve tried being gentle, or firm and forceful, or even ignoring the tantrums, hoping they will stop...
This is not that!
This class gives you the ONE thing that is missing from all the other things you've tried. When Dr. Betsy shows you what to do, you will feel the difference immediately.
What if my child is neurodivergent/highly sensitive/etc.?
The one thing Dr. Betsy teaches you in this class is helpful with all children. It helps you step into your child's shoes so you can better understand what they are trying to communicate. That's why it can benefit all families!
And we have heard from some parents of children with developmental differences (ASD, ADHD, Dravet’s syndrome, etc.) that the skills we teach have been hugely beneficial!
However, our courses are not designed to diagnose, treat, or cure any developmental difference or disability. If your child is neurodivergent, this class may be a helpful addition to care and guidance from a licensed professional who specializes in your child’s diagnosis. If you are not sure, please check with them first.
How much does the class cost, and what does it include?
It’s just $7 (plus tax), and includes one straightforward, 20-minute video (and a quick, one-minute answer video) that shows you:
• Why most calming techniques don't work reliably
• What tantrums actually are
• The role you play
• The ONE THING that helps a child calm down
...In less time than an episode of Blue's Clues!
Can I listen to it on my phone?
Yes! Although it is a video, you can get everything you need without any visuals. Simply press play and listen while you get something else done!
How long is this class?
You’ll be in and out in under 20 minutes, with exactly what you need to know to respond differently to the next tantrum and turn it around!
More fun. More hugs.
No more fear!
IMAGINE KNOWING
"I'VE GOT THIS!"
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DISCLAIMER
We are parent and personal growth coaches, not medical or mental health professionals. This website and the content provided herein are for adult use, meant to be thought-provoking, and are not intended or implied to be a substitute for advice, diagnosis, guidance, or treatment by a licensed medical or mental health professional. No liability is assumed for losses or damages due to the content provided. You are responsible for your own choices, actions, and results. You should consult a licensed medical or mental health professional for your specific questions and needs.
© 2025 How Kids Work™. All rights reserved.
The content of this website is the intellectual property of the website owner. Any unauthorized use is a violation of international copyright laws and can result in criminal or civil penalties.